Tuesday, September 20, 2005

Ending of a life

A friend of mine yesterday had an abortion and another got proposed to. These two situations made me think of the whole getting married and having babies situation. As much as i want it to happen as soon as possible as much as i am afraid of it. At least when i am alone when i take decisions i take them with respect to me but when i am married i will have to share decisions with my partner even if it concerns only me. But when the kids arrive that's it i am back on making decisions somehow on my own but this time not only for me. (By the way i said on my own for the mother takes more decisions than the father concerning the kids, what to wear what to eat which doctor to go to etc.)

Ending that baby's life was a really tough decision for my friend and her husband to take but it was the best solution for their hard situation they are in at the moment (inshallah ya rab everything becomes better with them asap w Allah bey3awwidoun badalou). As for my other friend, she doesn't even want to get married for she just started getting back to living somehow happily after her 10 years marriage which ended up in divorce; but i know that she aches to have someone to replace those 10 years and giving her the chance of being a mother before it's too late. I personally think that the current society will never give her that chance, but we never know it is always in the hands of God!

Anyway, both things happening on the same day and me being updated of the happenings through the phone every couple of hours made me feel a bit helpless for not being there to stand by them when needed. But anyway they knew that i was available at anytime on the phone and that i was concerned and that's what counts.

By the way the proposal was refused but the abortion did happen. So in other words both lifes were ended before they even started to mature.



Blogger Jane said...

How sad for your friend who had the abortion. No matter what the reasoning behind it is, it is a difficult choice to make and even more difficult one to live with. It is good she has a friend like you who is obviously caring and supportive. She may need it for a long time.

5:02 AM, September 21, 2005  
Blogger aroundtheclock24_7 said...

Actually this was the only choice, for her other one and only child who is 2 yrs old is getting cured from Cancer. So if she had decided to keep the baby there would have been no one else but the father, who is in another country at the time being , to go with their 2yrs child for all the chemotherapy and xray sessions. Besides she is still in her first month and feeling sooooooo tired and sick and always in need of sleep so you can imagine what would happen when she is 4 months and onwards, especially with all her 2yrs kid burden and needs.

Therefore, although i am totally against all the abortion phobia but this time i was with her and supporting her for this decision was the best choice for both the parents and the children (2yrs and unborn).

May God help them through this hard time.

10:30 AM, September 21, 2005  
Blogger Me said...

I don't know what to say ... was sad enough reading about the abortion in the main post...reading the rest of the story here in the comments was heartbreaking... May God give her the strength to carry on :-)

"Inna lilah wa inna ilayhi raje3oon..Allahoma ajorha fee moseebateha wa akhlefha khayran menha"

3:06 PM, September 21, 2005  
Blogger aroundtheclock24_7 said...

She's a strong woman and i really highly respect her more and more every day. For besides taking care of the sick kid, and going through the abortion without the presence of her traveling/working husband, she also has to show everyone that she is fine and that everything is great and Thank God at all times 4 everything. Although deep inside she is soooooo worried of messing up in any of her duties as a daughter to her parents whom she's staying with, as a wife to her husband and his hectic work, and as a mother 2 her sick 2yrs old.

So trust me, don't feel sorry for her but feel proud that she still has big faith in God. And always please remember her in your prayers ;)

4:59 PM, September 21, 2005  
Blogger Me said...

Wish there were more of her :-)
All I can say is she can be sure of:

" O ye who believe! seek help with patient perseverance and prayer; for Allah is with those who patiently persevere" Al-Baqarah:153

5:41 PM, September 21, 2005  

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